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Thursday, June 19, 2008

That And A Heart Attack Will Kill Ya

I got a call today from my stepmother saying my dad had a heart attack yesterday. It's his second one. His first occured when he was in his mid 40's. And now...about 12 years later...he was hammered with another.

He's overweight and doesn't exercise. He did quit smoking back when he had his first, so he's slightly ahead of the game.

I reamed out my stepmother by initially telling her when will it be the last time I get a call saying he had a heart attack. I said he has to lose weight and exercise. I hadn't said anything before because I knew that they knew what to do and that it's hard and that they didn't need me lecturing them. But, now that I'm getting a call about his second heart attack, I told her I can't sit back and not say anything anymore.

I told her she needs to lose weight too. They can go for walks. Pick a diet and stick with it. Just stick with it.

I know how hard it is because I'm trying too and it's a pain in the ass to lose weight. But I don't want the next phone call to be that either one of them has had a heart attack. I want it to be the last call because they've pulled their shit together and lost the weight. I don't want it to be the last call because they're dead.

My brother is getting married this Sunday. At least my father will be well enough to attend. The fucker.

14 Comments:

  • Oh, I'm sorry.
    Hopefully they will eat right and exercise...it's hard to make big lifestyle changes. Sorry again. Hope your dad is recovering well.

    By Blogger Life As I Know It, at 6/19/2008 11:28 AM  

  • Shannon -
    I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's HA.
    Keep on them! Maybe the second time is the charm, so to speak. Maybe it will scare them both into some lifestyle changes.
    Walking is great exercise - oh how I wish I could do it right now!
    Also - My CDE told me that 2 servings of legumes (good old beans) a day, actually reduce any inflammation in the arteries. Even if he drank 2 servings of soy milk a day, it would help.
    I'm sending positive vibes your families way.
    k2

    By Blogger k2, at 6/19/2008 11:45 AM  

  • Hopefully this will be the wake up call they need. I think most people struggle with food and weight issues in some way, but when it's your family you just want them to do the right thing, right now. I'm always trying to get my mom motivated to get her health together. It's difficult, but we have to try.

    By Blogger Jillian, at 6/19/2008 12:03 PM  

  • Thank God he survived, I hope he's recovering OK. Maybe this time he'll get it.

    By Blogger Araby62, at 6/19/2008 12:32 PM  

  • Is he close enough that you could pick him up and go for walks? I know I need people to kick my ass into gear.

    BTW my father died of a heart attack at 43. He didn't get a second chance. Tell your dad that as a kid who lost his pop to a HA that I am begging him to take it seriously and get healthy.

    By Blogger George, at 6/19/2008 12:41 PM  

  • He lives in NJ and I'm in NH. Once things have settled down...like by next week...I'm going to talk to them about checking in with each other once and week to report our progress by phone. And I think my family and I (my brother and stepsister) will try to convince them to join a gym and hook up with a personal trainer. They have to make the effort now.

    By Blogger Shannon, at 6/19/2008 12:53 PM  

  • Damn! Very sorry. I'm always preparing myself for that same phone call.

    By Blogger Carey, at 6/19/2008 1:21 PM  

  • Oh no! :o( I'm so sorry to hear this news...I really hope your dad will be well enough to attend your brother's wedding, and also that this will be the scare that pushes him to get healthier. For himself AND his loved ones. Hang in there!

    By Blogger AmyD, at 6/19/2008 1:31 PM  

  • oh Shannon, I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. Been there too. I went out and bought my dad the heart association cook book. And we got him signed up for classes at his hospital - they had a nutrition program, and exercise program etc. So he did that for about 5 months and it gave him a good head start. He's still not where he needs to be and has a lot of other health problems BUT, he's still alive and his heart is fine. Simple changes - reading the labels for bad stuff in the food, going for short walks, they ALL add up.

    Good luck to him and your stepmother.

    By Blogger Michelle, at 6/19/2008 5:49 PM  

  • Thanks for the well wishes everyone :)

    He had a procedure done today to unblock the stent that was in his artery from his first HA. He "should" be OK now.

    By Blogger Shannon, at 6/19/2008 7:03 PM  

  • Shannon,
    I'm so sorry. I hope they can make some positive and healthy changes.

    By Blogger Lea, at 6/19/2008 8:29 PM  

  • So sorry Shannon.

    By Blogger Jenn, at 6/20/2008 6:32 AM  

  • Its CRAZY. My dad is 6' 1" and about 250. He actually will say it out loud 'my weight is killing me'. Is in his upper 60s now.

    Yes we all have a few pounds we need to lose, and nobody is perfect. But if you are 50 pounds high and you know its killing you and you just walk around acknowledging it, WTF.

    By Blogger Brett, at 6/20/2008 1:41 PM  

  • I'm so sorry Shannon - but he's been given yet another chance. I really hope for his sake and that of the entire family that this one opens his eyes and he takes it seriously. You all want him around a bit longer - he's needed here by so many people and all he has to do is take care of himself.

    Good luck to him and I hope he listens.

    (((((HUGS)))))

    By Blogger Jamie, at 6/20/2008 3:13 PM  

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